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mistressofmuses) wrote2021-06-11 08:36 pm
mistressofmuses) wrote2021-06-11 08:36 pm
Bleh
What a bullshit day at work.
A lot of the specifics are difficult or uninteresting to explain. But my manager and I spent more than four hours sorting out scheduling stuff into November, which was tedious. Then we found out an issue where the staff of another center somehow started misunderstanding the age requirements for something, which has resulted in a lot of missing paperwork, and some kids who've gone to the DMV and not had stuff that was required. We don't know the extent of the issue, just that it IS one, because we're already seeing some of the end results. But we have a lot to sort through to try and get ahead of anything else and get it fixed. One of the drivers had 13 tests and 9 of them failed. Typically about 80% pass, so that also sucked.
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Taylor quit their shitty job! I'm really glad and proud of them for it. The job was a good one in a lot of ways, since it paid well and had decent benefits. But also had an expectation that 50-60+ hour workweeks are the norm, and on-call weekends that necessitate immediate response to the point that they weren't able to leave the house for so much as a walk or an errand. And the pressure has only gotten worse over the last months.
I ran to the store after work and bought them some cupcakes as a celebration, haha.
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The morning also started off annoying because I went to try and catch up on one of my fandom discords... and there was a fairly long thread bashing a different part of the fandom.
(Not even a "rival" ship, since it doesn't include any of the same characters. But the ship that was for a time one of the most popular in the fandom has been a target of a TON of "anti" sentiments, including that it's "basically incest" because they think these unrelated characters interact in a familial way, and that there's a "problematic" age gap, despite their ages in canon being pretty vague.
And of course no one should feel the need to ship something they don't like, or if they like a different dynamic between characters. But the complaints never stick to "I don't like this." It's always about how disgusting people are for shipping it, and how DARE people view the relationship that way, or that there's "no excuse" for the fandom not to "have its shit together and know shipping that isn't okay".
Ship or don't ship what you want, but attacking other members of fandom for petty ship drama is the toxic shit that makes me not want to "do" fandom.
I like reading and writing fic, but I get so burned out on that kind of shit.)
A lot of the specifics are difficult or uninteresting to explain. But my manager and I spent more than four hours sorting out scheduling stuff into November, which was tedious. Then we found out an issue where the staff of another center somehow started misunderstanding the age requirements for something, which has resulted in a lot of missing paperwork, and some kids who've gone to the DMV and not had stuff that was required. We don't know the extent of the issue, just that it IS one, because we're already seeing some of the end results. But we have a lot to sort through to try and get ahead of anything else and get it fixed. One of the drivers had 13 tests and 9 of them failed. Typically about 80% pass, so that also sucked.
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Taylor quit their shitty job! I'm really glad and proud of them for it. The job was a good one in a lot of ways, since it paid well and had decent benefits. But also had an expectation that 50-60+ hour workweeks are the norm, and on-call weekends that necessitate immediate response to the point that they weren't able to leave the house for so much as a walk or an errand. And the pressure has only gotten worse over the last months.
I ran to the store after work and bought them some cupcakes as a celebration, haha.
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The morning also started off annoying because I went to try and catch up on one of my fandom discords... and there was a fairly long thread bashing a different part of the fandom.
(Not even a "rival" ship, since it doesn't include any of the same characters. But the ship that was for a time one of the most popular in the fandom has been a target of a TON of "anti" sentiments, including that it's "basically incest" because they think these unrelated characters interact in a familial way, and that there's a "problematic" age gap, despite their ages in canon being pretty vague.
And of course no one should feel the need to ship something they don't like, or if they like a different dynamic between characters. But the complaints never stick to "I don't like this." It's always about how disgusting people are for shipping it, and how DARE people view the relationship that way, or that there's "no excuse" for the fandom not to "have its shit together and know shipping that isn't okay".
Ship or don't ship what you want, but attacking other members of fandom for petty ship drama is the toxic shit that makes me not want to "do" fandom.
I like reading and writing fic, but I get so burned out on that kind of shit.)
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I don't entirely get the "anti" thing in fandom -- I only learned about it recently -- but then I've never been that active, and I only see what people are arguing about via random link-hopping on Tumblr and the occasional "manifesto" at the beginning of a fic on AO3. (That one was weird; it's hard to imagine a published author putting a manifesto about their beliefs at the beginning of a novel, for instance. Their editor would probably laugh at them before vetoing it, assuming the novel wasn't from a vanity publisher.) It's kinda sad that some fans feel the need to exclude other fans from the same fandom for not liking the same thing (or even liking the "wrong" thing), but I suppose that's been going on for years in different forms -- I'm reminded of the "you're not a real fan" type of argument when you don't know enough fandom trivia or you haven't consumed all the related media. Makes me want to just stick to what I like and not engage in any conversations that could potentially go awry.
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See, I'm pretty good at avoiding it on tumblr, because I don't do anything but scroll my dash, and I unfollow people if they post stuff like that. I rarely wade into tags (though I track a couple), or I'm sure I'd encounter it even more.
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It was so very unhealthy, and Taylor has been *miserable* for a long time over it. It won't fix everything, but I think it'll be a huge source of stress lifted off their shoulders. I hope they find something far better as well.
I don't get it either! I know I'm a little older, and I remember fandom terms like "kink tomato" - "YKINMKATO": Your Kink Is Not My Kink And That's Okay. Ship wars have always been a thing, and there were the purity brigades way back when on LJ and stuff, often fighting against the 'horrors' of fans daring to have gay ships.
But the anti movement, as it is currently, has taken that purity culture attitude and slapped a pair of faux-progressive groucho marx glasses on it. (Which is a runaway metaphor, lol.) Instead of just not liking something, and thinking it's boring/shitty/unsupported by canon/etc., now they'll find moral justification (no matter how ridiculously they have to stretch for it) for why the ship they don't like is somehow unacceptable, and by extension, why anyone who DOES ship it is secretly an abuser who deserves to be personally attacked.
But I'm with you. :/ I mostly just want to stick to my own little sandbox and not try to get involved with other parts of fandom. Which is a bummer, because I *want* there to be a sense of community within fandom, and yet it's so hard to find.
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Pardon for rambling about this thing that I don't actually understand well; it baffles me and I don't really know anyone else who gets it. ^^;;
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I've got a LOT of feelings about the whole "anti" thing, lol, so I don't mean to just spew them at you like a firehose, haha.
But I do wish that some of the people starting drama over AO3 would realize how good they have it. I was writing fic pre-AO3, and I remember there being fandoms that weren't allowed on even the biggest sites (like ff.net) because the authors of canon didn't approve of fic. I remember occasional purges of what was ostensibly "adult content", but really amounted to deleting content of any rating that had queer pairings.
So yeah, AO3 doesn't moderate content, but it DOES require accurate tagging and warning, even if the warning consists of "I'm not telling you what this contains: read at your own risk."
I hate that there's hostility toward the idea of having to curate your own experience. I'm absolutely in favor of people avoiding reading something that upsets them, and so making sure that potentially upsetting subject matter is tagged so it can be avoided is a good thing! But the attitude of "I would never want to read such a thing, so NO ONE SHOULD BE ALLOWED TO" is... really difficult for me to understand.
(Plus general hypocrisy, contorting to justify something they like and condemn something they don't, etc,)
Again, I've got lots of ~feelings~ about it, sorry, haha. ^^;
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I don't mind all the feels, they kind of make sense given how...nonsensical?...these arguments can get. I'm not always sure what to make of them, and I tend to take my cue from what other people are saying about it.
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A lot of the arguments do get nonsensical, and frustrating, especially when you've seen them repeat over the years. It's often fandom drama turned all the way up to 100, and it's exhausting.